Gay online dating safety tips
Now there are many sites that you can use, and you have to be aware of what they offer.
AVP has free and confidential counseling and support group sessions available.
Let someone know your plans for the night: who you’ll be with and if plans change. If you’ve called the police, introduce yourself when they arrive. If you are harassed or attacked by the police, get their name and badge/car numbers. We’re here to support LGBTQ and HIV-affected survivors of all forms of violence, including hook-up, dating, sexual, intimate partner, hate, and police violence.
Brainstorm in advance ways people can contact and support you. Locate public spaces and 24-hour businesses to seek help if you feel unsafe. If you feel threatened or unsafe, remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible. Take photos of injuries, and keep records of e-mails, texts and calls. You do not have to consent to a search of your person, your car, or your house. Instead, repeat out loud, “I do not consent to this search.” You have the right to watch and document police activities. If you have witnessed or experience violence, we encourage you to call our 24-hour bilingual (English/Spanish) hotline at 212-714-1141 where you can speak with a trained counselor or to use our secure online reporting form. Utilize the help of supportive friends, partners and family. To help keep our communities safe, get involved with our community organizing work.
Incidents of hook-up violence can happen in public spaces such as bars, sex/play parties, etc.
Let friends, other patrons, or bar/nightclub staff know if you leave temporarily and when you intend to return.