Dating etiquette when to call after a date
People don’t tend to go on dates with complete strangers, but instead often get to know someone who’s already in their circle or the friend of a friend (or maybe they met online).
Then, it just happens and they decide to go out together alone. There aren’t too many rigid rules, either: “in the Netherlands, there are no set rules; you might do all or nothing on the first or tenth date,” and, “the timescale between the first date and having sex in France could be anything from 20 years to 20 seconds,” said European expats.
French and Spanish men may seem a little over the top, showering a woman with compliments. It doesn’t mean he’s (necessarily) a creep, as paying a compliment is a form of acknowledgement rather than flattery in those countries.
In places like the Netherlands and Germany, people can be very direct in the way they speak (rather than being over polite and saying things to be nice that they don’t mean to avoid hurting someone’s feelings – as is often the way in the United Kingdom, for example). You shouldn’t always take to heart what’s said to you. In the UK, drinking a vast amount of alcohol can be central in beginning a sexual relationship with someone.
In the Netherlands, you might take a walk or go on a bike ride.
Couples in Germany don’t start with formal dating either and it’s only after a series of informal meetings – walks, dinner, cinema, theater – that they might start being seen as a couple.
In case you really aren’t interested, then be very clear and tell him politely but firmly.
Flip-flops, shorts, or scruffy clothes in general tend not to make a good impression in fashion-conscious European cities. In France, a man may be late, but don’t take it personally; French men are notoriously bad timekeepers.
In Germany and Switzerland, however, punctuality is valuable; if one of you rolls up late, your date will be off to a bad start.
In many English-speaking countries, the kiss just doesn’t have the same significance it does elsewhere.
For example, in the UK, a woman might kiss one or more men when she’s out in a club or bar (or vice versa), but it wouldn’t necessarily mean anything or lead to a relationship of any kind. In Europe, once a man gets your number, he will most likely call straight away rather than wait a few days.