Dating a girl with a purity ring
This should be a committed brother or sister in Christ, usually the same gender as you. Plan to pray at the end of the date to thank Him for it.
It should be someone who takes sexual purity seriously, someone with wise advice, who will pray for you and help hold you accountable to high standards. Pray together at the beginning and end of each date. Knowing this prayer is coming will help you to be sure to control yourself and please God. Imagine your parents and church leaders are watching you through the window. Then realize your life is not private—it’s an open book to be seen by a watching world: "What you have said in the dark will be heard in the daylight, and what you have whispered in the ear in the inner rooms will be proclaimed from the roofs” (Luke 12:3). When you sense the temptation coming, before things start to get out of control, RUN. When it comes to sexual temptation, it always pays to be a coward. Write out your own standards and enforce them yourself—never depend on your date.
Unfortunately, shame was also a player in this movement.
Treat your date as a subject to listen to and understand and appreciate, not an object to experiment with, conquer or satisfy your desires. Avoid fast moving relationships and instant intimacy. A car moving too fast is likely to swerve out of control when it hits a slick spot. Know what you’re doing and either stick with the plan or go somewhere safe, where you’re in the sight of others (particularly others who respect the need for purity). Determine to stay away from the setup, rather than putting yourself in the setup and having to call on your convictions when your resistance is at its lowest, and you’re most likely to give in. Be accountable to someone about your physical relationship.You as an individual are fully responsible and accountable to God for what you do (Romans -12; 2 Corinthians ). Make your moral decisions in advance—not in the time of temptation.If it’s left to your feelings in the moment of truth, you’ll make the wrong decision.What do you want them to be doing now with someone else?“Do to others as you would have them do to you” (Luke ). Look out for the “moral wear down” of long dating relationships and long engagements.